Man doesn't get to define who Jesus is or what He stands for. Jesus did a great job at defining Himself (see Holy Scripture). The problem is that some aren’t interested in the Truth.
When our focus/affections are diverted from Christ, misery seeps in and ruins our joy. In this new estate, we don’t feel like doing anything but wallowing in self-pity and self-induced misery (encouraging others is no longer top-of-mind). (cp. Php 3:13-14)